The River Birch Project Fall Event — Recap

The River Birch Project LogoFilm Viewing and Discussion

The Women’s List

a PBS documentary by Timothy Greenfield Sanders

 Meet 15 Women Who Have Created and Defined Contemporary US Culture

Inspiring! Uplifting! Provocative! Fun! Compelling!

About thirty of us gathered to view the film along with lively discussion.  You may purchase this video from PBS (as we did), and / or view the trailer or complete version here.

“It’s sometimes surprising to discover the cumulative progress women have made in recent times. Just think, what field has not been enriched by females in art, theater, finance politics, law, entrepreneurship, science.  The list is as impressive as it is enlightening. To realize that we’re no longer pioneers, the startling exception, the first to fly, or swim or sail prodigious distances in bad weather. No longer the first to untangle problems in science, math or physics.

No. We are multitudes, and society is clearly the better for our peaceful invasion.  There is no modernity and no justice without the talent, the passion and the steely intelligence of women.”

Toni Morrison

Our discussion covered many elements inspired by the film, including a discussion of what it means to be a feminist.  What does this really mean for those who came before us as well as those who are young today, and for men, as well as women, male youth as well as female? Our discussion was about knowing one’s own power, own voice, in service to what matters, and in service to humanity.

There also was lively discussion on the topic of Self-Doubt and Confidence.  See this brief and fun TED Lesson: Tips to Boost Confidence!

Curated Resources on the topic of Women and Leadership, from last night’s event.

We look forward to seeing you at future events!

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Spring Forward… International Women’s Day!

Carnival (referred to as Venus),  Jim Dine, Whitman College, Walla Walla, WA

Carnival (referred to as Venus), Jim Dine, Whitman College, Walla Walla, WA

 

Springing Forward…

It is raining here in Seattle and feels like the middle of Winter, although there are signs of Spring.  The days are staying brighter and tonight we set our clocks forward for Daylight Savings Time. The Narcissus are blooming, too, along with March’s Daphne (O’Dora) which sends its beautiful fragrance out, so we notice…in the middle of the dampness, the season is changing.

Today is International Women’s Day

On Twitter: #IWD2014 hashtag

Upcoming Seattle Event:

I would like to highlight an exciting event, to be hosted by the Women’s Funding Alliance on March 31, 2014, featuring Stephanie Coontz and Lindy West, at Town Hall:  Today’s Feminism

Spend the evening with two of our region’s most savvy, sought after experts on issues that matter to women. We will welcome Lindy West and Stephanie Coontz for a lively discussion about modern solutions to strengthen women’s voices online and expand economic power among women. Lindy and Stephanie will each offer a TED style talk followed by an interactive discussion with the audience.

Hope to see you there!  Get tickets early! (These are not expensive: $10.00)

Coaching Notes — Reflections on coaching with leaders:

A theme that seems to be present among many leaders in coaching relates to the difference between general intelligence, including skills and expertise, and emotional intelligence (EQ).  Daniel Goleman writes compellingly about EQ, and is a trusted resource.

A connection between empathy and self-care:

 

A recent conversation with a wise mentor, helped me consider a connection between one aspect of EQ, empathy, and self-care. She offered that we are most able to be empathic and to consider another’s perspective and ‘walk in another’s shoes’ when we have a practice of compassion toward ourselves.  We are most able to be present with others, when we are grounded and solid, and whole, ourselves. We are most able to ‘be there’ for another, when we are coming from a place of balance and when ‘our bucket is full’. On the other hand, when we are depleted, we have more trouble with self-management and are far more prone to reactivity.  Being response-able is much easier when we are rested and generative. So, from this standpoint, knowledge about taking care of one’s self, and all aspects of wellness and self-care, becomes prominent in how we lead.

 

The connection between empathy and EQ, and the connection between empathy and self-compassion is discussed here: Dr. Kristin Neff.  Kristin also makes an interesting distinction between self-esteem and self-compassion.

Another resource is Rick Hanson, author of Hardwiring Happiness, the New Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence.  Rick writes about brain science and re-wiring our thought patterns and approach to the world in an empirically supported and practical way.  He has a newsletter that you can find here.

Check out the Resources on my website for more references in Articles & Books.

Winter can be dark and damp in the Northwest, and it allows us to go inward.  In anticipation, too, of Spring and various home-comings, many blessings to you!

Ah, not to be cut off,

not through the slightest partition

Shut out from the law of the starts.

The inner – what is it?

if not the intensified sky,

hurled through with birds and deep

with the winds of homecoming

Rainer Maria Rilke

 

~Lynn Hagerman, March 8, 2014

 

Announcing New Event: Identity & Leadership

 

Save the Date:  January 23, 2014, 5:30-7:30pm

RiverBirch Events are offered three to four times a year.  We skipped this Fall, but some very good things are in the works for 2014.   One event, announced here, focuses on Identity & Leadership. Another event, to be offered later in spring, will be on the topic of Mentoring.

Women Rising: The Unseen Barriers; see the article:

Women Rising: The Unseen Barriers, from Harvard Business Review.  This important article illuminates the second level bias that interferes with women stepping fully into leadership roles.  It relates, in part, to identity and how tricky adopting a leadership identity can be.   I see it often in my coaching practice: confidence is a recurrent theme, even among the most seasoned leaders.  Another theme among highly trained professionals is ‘being the expert’, and while ‘skill competence’ is important, leadership involves much more.  Professionals, having invested many years in training and education, can over-identify with  ‘preparation’ and ‘being the expert’… when a new identity must be formed around “being a leader”.

Announcing:  Women, Leadership & Identity

The idea came together for a new RiverBirch Event: Identity & Leadership after I saw a workshop given by Shannon Patterson.  Shannon focuses on working with the concept of core identity and how we can intentionally reflect and develop / get acquainted with our preferences and gifts and core values, and how these form our identity.   This operates in our personal and our professional lives (including our leadership lives) as a ballast, as a guide… I wanted to bring this inquiry and conversation to our group!

With Guest Speaker, Shannon Patterson, MSOD   (for more information on Shannon, see Connection Works)

Event Date:   Thursday, January 23, 2014, 5:30-7:30pm, in Seattle

Registration for this event is now closed!  It is filled to capacity.    A re-cap and follow up resources will be posted on this site.

~Lynn Hagerman

November 9, 2013, and Updated  to open registration on January 2, 2014; Updated January 17, 2014 to close registration.

 

Rapture, Blister, Burn!

Check Out a new Play

at ACT! Theatre, July 12-August 11, 2013, Rapture, Blister, Burn!

When Catherine, a 40-something, single, and highly successful academic returns to her hometown to take care of her ailing mother, she reconnects with her college roommate and best friend, Gwen, now a stay-at-home mother and housewife married to Catherine’s old flame. Both women, coveting each other’s choices, attempt to find the happiness and fulfillment they lack by travelling a very bumpy road not taken, with surprising and hilarious results. This fast-paced, witty comedy by Gina Gionfriddo explores the continuing fallout and evolution of the feminist movement. –

Women Leaders, Breaking Barriers:

In more news:  Helen Thomas  ” who’s bottomless curiosity and unquenchable drive made her a prominent White House reporter at a time when men dominated the profession”, has died, at 92.    She was among women in the newsroom who started as a clerk and transcended that role when most women were expected to stay in the background.

Helen left public service (good journalism is a public service), and retired from her work,  when she reflected her bias.  It was unworthy of her, and was kind of nasty.  In fact, I want to remember her, without knowing this. But isn’t that the way it is with all of us?  Good people, good leaders, all of us, have bias of some kind or another. We must spend a lifetime uncovering this, and in self-reflection and honesty we need to choose to reveal it to ourselves and learn.  President Obama noted this in his comments this past week following the most recent flashpoint in our national non-conversation on Race: ” President Obama Asks Americans to do some soul-searching”.

In thinking about Helen:  she didn’t try to be a ‘lady’, and often her questions at White House press conferences were more pointed than people were comfortable with.   As women, we move through life in a way that allows us to gain more honesty in expression.  Many writers and researchers, Dr. Christine Northrup among them, say that during menopause, hormonal and biological changes influence women to loose some of the over-active filtering in the brain that brings out a new ‘calling it like it is’, a new honesty.

Corporations and Empathy:

Why Men Need Women: It’s Not What You Think

Studies say that empathic behavior of sisters may rub off on their brothers.  The presence of women influences empathic action.   A recent opinion piece in the NYT suggests another reason why it may be important for more women to be in executive and board roles relates to corporate behavior with employees and the community.

We recognize the direct advantages that women as leaders bring to the table, which often include diverse perspectives, collaborative styles, dedication to mentoring and keen understanding of female employees and customers. But we’ve largely overlooked the beneficial effects that women have on the men around them. Is it possible that when women join top management teams, they encourage male colleagues to treat employees more generously and to share knowledge more freely? Increases in motivation, cooperation, and innovation in companies may be fueled not only by the direct actions of female leaders, but also by their influence on male leaders.”  Adam Grant, NYT, July 21, 2013

The RiverBirch Project:  Women, Leadership & Life!  Upcoming Events:

An evening event will be offered in the Fall.  Topics in the works:  Executive Presence — Exactly What is This?,  and: Mentors and Sponsors–What’s the Difference, and Why Does It Matter?

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Enjoy Summer!

~Lynn Hagerman, July 21, 2013